tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post8466204789863912837..comments2024-03-28T12:33:47.755-07:00Comments on Hard Up Hester.: Don't leave it too lateHard up Hesterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02561421853249973134noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post-1302885757334149432015-05-30T00:01:50.280-07:002015-05-30T00:01:50.280-07:00The strop phase will pass in time. With my mum her...The strop phase will pass in time. With my mum her faculties and abilities decreased and so did the strops. They became grunts and clenched fists but nothing more. Horrible disease. My mother was the same and refused to move, make practical choices etc Stubborn. Now she cannot move and is in bed most days. She is well cared for though. My empathies.Eeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00837267249499167234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post-2807718377307851452015-05-29T05:47:16.982-07:002015-05-29T05:47:16.982-07:00It's really hard isn't it and you can'...It's really hard isn't it and you can't help but feel that they're purposely not doing anything to help themselves, thus making it more difficult for family. I'm sure it'd be easier to negotiate with a terrorist. Mother-in-law has dementia and can't walk, thankfully she's in a home now and seems happy but getting there hasn't been without its problems. Father-in-law is 84 and has lung cancer. His favourite saying when he's struggling is"anybody would think I'm an old aged pensioner" which officially he is, by 20 years! I think he genuinely believes he's still a spring chicken and complains a lot about 'old people'. Mind you, I'm 48 and still feel 18 in my head. Maybe that never changes. xx Everyday life at Number 38https://www.blogger.com/profile/12945846951398052455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post-77607819210430380122015-05-27T18:57:02.086-07:002015-05-27T18:57:02.086-07:00I took care of my mom and dad for the past nine ye...I took care of my mom and dad for the past nine years, while taking care of my own family as well. I live about a mile from them. They had significant health issues with multiple surgeries, re-hab visits, visiting nurses and eventually each of them went into a hospice facility for their last days. It was hard, stressful work but I did what they wanted and that was to stay in their home. <br />Doctors and scientists are working so diligently in prolonging people's lives and yet there is nothing in place to take care of people who do not have caregivers or most concerning a ton of money. The people who work in nursing homes are underpaid and there is never enough coverage. Burn-out is the caregiver's constant companion. And just because they are in a care facility does not mean your job is finished. You must be an advocate especially those with mental health concerns. <br />Truthfully as hard as it was, I would give anything just to be able to call them up <br />just for chat.<br />Hang tough, Barb..USAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post-82002652610575094472015-05-27T09:54:18.455-07:002015-05-27T09:54:18.455-07:00Hi Trish, 6 weeks & counting & she's s...Hi Trish, 6 weeks & counting & she's still throwing a strop, I feel for the staff, I really do.Hard up Hesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02561421853249973134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4690929350463100222.post-62546575113185877192015-05-26T13:10:27.146-07:002015-05-26T13:10:27.146-07:00I really do feel for you as our family had the sam...I really do feel for you as our family had the same troubles about 4 years ago.Stay strong. I must say on reflection I felt that we respected mother's wishes far too long and should have moved her from her home but like you she wanted to stay in the house (moved in 1952). The care homes usually know how to handle the transition period. We had a brief hiccup at first but we got there eventually!TrishWishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133314088190424463noreply@blogger.com