Steve finds it necessary to chip away at anything that gives me pleasure.
He complained so often and so vociferously about my cooking that I eventually stopped cooking. Since he's been visiting the Dr's regularly, he's been told to improve his diet. So he expects me to start cooking again. But he doesn't like what I cook, it doesn't taste right.
He also destroyed my love of Christmas with his continual complaints. He also doesn't like me making crafts and many other things.
Y'day when he was went to the summer house he made it very obvious that he didn't want me to go. He prefers it if I only go on Wednesday for the quiz, and then only if I win.
This morning two neighbours spoke to me about his behaviour, it seems he held forth at great length about politics. As his views are now extremely right wing he made everyone uncomfortable. My neighbours seem to expect me to do something about his behaviour.
I have tried ever since he had his stroke to modify his more extreme behaviour, this is no doubt why he prefers me not to go to the summer house.
8 comments:
I’m sorry your neighbours expect you to do something about Steve’s behaviour. If it’s annoying them then they must tell him that his behaviour is not acceptable! Hope you get away to your daughter’s soon. Catriona
Just say no. You and Beano need to go to your daughter's.
Sedating medication? With or without his knowledge, perhaps. I worry for your physical safety. And emotional health.
Hi on the days Steve goes to the summerhouse you and Beano head out with a good book to the park on a nice day or for a nice coffee when it is cold, write on the white board gone out with a friend, back soon, it is not a lie Beano is a good friend to you. My daughter looked after my mum for years when she needed a break she went to the local cinema to watch a movie.
I tell people if they don't like what my husband says talk to HIM. Those are his views and they should deal with HIM.
From what you've said over the years, I'm starting to wonder if Steve needs a care facility. They could monitor his meds and diet and you would be free.
You can't be responsible for Steve's behaviour - it is bad enough that you have to put up with it! Just ask the neighbours to tell him themselves if they don't like his behaviour or what he says. Audrey
It gets to a point I believe - well I have - that I let mine show himself up - He's not a child or a unruly dog - For my health I mainly let him - No excuses any longer - Can't be arsed - flis xx
Please, Sue, do not let Steve chip away at your confidence or pleasures. You are an adult and can decide to join your neighbours or go to see your daughter if you choose to. Of course, his behaviour might be the price you pay for making your own decisions but only you can decide whether a tantrum or two is worth it. I’m sending good vibes and a hug to you across the Irish Sea x
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