Monday, 24 March 2025

Ouch, I've got a stiffy

Finger that is, it's my index finger so I look like I'm admonishing someone. It would be worse if it was my middle finger.

Steve's behaviour continues strange, he wants to change his will though I'm not sure in who's favour. I need to find a way to.protect myself. I can afford this flat on my pension as I'm very careful with my money. 

I'm looking forward to Friday when I'm seeing my youngest son and oldest daughter, we're eating out, a Mother's Day treat. I can take Beano with me so Steve will not have a chance to scupper the plans.  Hopefully I'll be contacted by my other son and daughter at around the same time.


10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Can you attend the will change at his attorneys office as surely being his wife you have the right to know what he is putting in it. Also normally the partners estate goes to the other partner and vice versa

flis said...

I had a finger like that once and yellow - mine returned to normal after I warmed up - His announcement is worrying - I can't suggest the best thing to do though - Maybe try to get advice from a solicitor or even a helpline - in the meantime I would protect my purse, accounts and don't pay for any of his unnecessary wants - If he complains - I'd say - we cannot afford it with the rising costs x

Gill said...

Is it worth you or one of your children taking out a power of attorney or can you register your interests in financial affairs in some way. Xx

50 and counting said...

is your ownership of your home in joint title?

Anonymous said...

In Canada, you have to leave at least 60% of your estate to your wife and the remainder to any minor children, I believe. If the flat is in both names there are usually rules about succession as well. Check with a lawyer as to your rights. My father in law changed his will prior to any legal separation or divorce and the whole thing was thrown out as illegal. It was for spite I am sure, but it backfired on him.

Corinne said...

What do your children think of his behaviour? Could they help you secure your finances? I'm in the process of making Power of Attorney docs for hubby and myself to hopefully avoid problems in the future. Could your doctor even suggest he isn't capable of making decisions?

Corinne said...

I also meant to say if you bandage your finger, people will forgive even a middle one!

Ana Dunk said...

I think you need to see an attorney to explain what is happening and Steve's medical condition and see if there is a way you can protect yourself. Surely as a stroke victim, his actions could be questioned in case Steve tries to do something stupid. Can Betty help you get to an attorney? I fear for your financial security if your husband in his current medical state, does something irresponsible.

Anonymous said...

Do not wait. From what I have read on your blog he's going to
leave you in financial trouble.
His mental capacity is diminished. He's hiding in car parks,stalking you.
He's spending every penny he gets on alcohol. Spending obscene amounts of money on garbage food.
Then cuts off the hot water to save money.
You need to see a lawyer today.
Ask your kids or Betty to help you before it's too late girl.
Today.

Dog Lover said...

All of the above is very sound advice, I would get an affidavit from Betty and others from the summerhouse (showing independent witnesses) of stalking, yelling etc. Go back through your blog as you will be able to date stamp events
Wishing you the best
Fiona xxx

Being careful.

We are tenants in common with a 50/50 share. Steve can leave his share to whomever he wishes, as can I but the property cannot be sold until...