Firstly a big thank you and an apology to Cindy, we had a temporary postman one day recently and he posted your card through the door of an unoccupied flat. Your kind card was only discovered when the manager took someone to view the flat and discovered the card. It was passed to me late y'day. Thank you for your kindness.
I had hoped that by giving up alcohol Steve's behaviour might improve but it hasn't. He still wants to control who I'm friends with and who I talk to. Still when I go to the summer house he sits and glares at me, he's decided he needs feeding at 5 o'clock every afternoon. This means I can't socialise for long as his meal needs preparing.
I'm going to my daughter's soon for a week, it will be a nice break, she's going on holiday with her children. I shall be looking after her pets whilst she's away.
I left Beano alone in the flat when my daughter and I went to collect Steve from the hospital, he was beside himself with excitement when Steve and I returned home together.
I'm still pottering on with the quilt I'm making, I have many hours a day to fill and quilting helps.
5 comments:
I know you bow down to your husband to keep the peace. But surely it's time to say enough. If you are enjoying time out, at the Summerhouse or anywhere else, tell him he can have his 5 O'clock meal at a time that suits YOU. Otherwise make him a salad and stick it in the fridge.
He's got to cope on his own when you go away after all
Could you leave him a nice plate of sandwiches and a bag of crisps for when you want to stay later in the summerhouse?
Mine hasn't had a stroke but he sounds so very similar - He is becoming more and more attention seeking - and gets louder and angrier if I don't rush to his calls - It's exhausting - 9am he wanted me to read an article on his computer immediately - I was busy so didn't - Later as I was getting 4 lively dogs out of the car - He was demanding I look a bit of tat he found yesterday - I was too distracted with my dogs - Seconds later " I want you to read this text " - Then he wanted answers to where the scissors were ( he's always losing things and blames me ) and why have I separated the tomatoes from the beans - I really can't be A ***D xx
Could you make a main meal at lunchtime then leave a plate of snacks for him to have at whatever time he wants?
Tell him that his behaviour is coercive and controlling and as such is a criminal offence . The police will take it seriously if you call them. The threat should make him sit up and take note. If it doesn't, consider calling them. A telling off from a police officer should shake him to the core. Essie
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