Obviously this isn't the only problem in our marriage but it's very indicative of Steve's behaviour.
We both suffer from hearing problems, Steve because of many years working on building sites without the required ear defenders. My hearing is poor as I suffered many years of ear infections as a child and I also had a perforated eat drum and had surgery to repair this. As I've aged my hearing has deteriorated further. I've always used lip reading to back up my hearing but unfortunately my eyesight has now deteriorated so I can no longer do this. I pay for private hearing aids as the NHS ones I was provided with were not adequate for my needs.
To ensure Steve can hear me when I speak to him I speak clearly, if he's not looking at me I touch his shoulder to attract his attention. I did ask Steve to ensure I'm looking at him if he wants to talk to me and suggested he tap me on the shoulder. Instead he started to jab my shoulder hard to attract my attention.
Once Steve realised I was lip reading he started to cover his mouth when he spoke to me. I can no longer see well enough to lip read so Steve no longer covers his mouth, he just speaks really quietly so I have to ask him to repeat himself. This gives him the opportunity to give a long suffering sigh and then repeat himself just as quietly. When he is in the summer house or if we have visitors Steve speaks normally and I can hear what he is saying. So this is obviously just done to make my life difficult.
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You don't have to justify yourself to us - any longtime readers will absolutely understand why you have to leave for self preservation. The fact that you have stayed for so long in such challenging circumstances is a testament to the kind of person you are. Time to move on and find happiness and peace.
Steve's behaviour seems to me to be very similar to my husband's - I can only describe him as now being deliberately spiteful - Today in a country park car park with my dogs on leads he said he was going to the toilets - I said can he hurry up because I was desperate - He then walked Very slowly towards them and said that he won't do anything I ask ! - He really is getting worse - flis xx
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