I have a cupboard in the kitchen full of stuff like baking trays, mixing bowls, my food processor and mixer. I no longer use these, I enjoy cooking, I used to cook for the 30 people who went to Stroke Club when Steve was attending. I enjoyed it far too much so Steve stopped going and we moved the boat further away so I was unable to go.
When we moved here I joined the lunch club, we took it in turns to cook, there were about eight of us. This also didn't suit Steve so he started arguing with everyone and it closed down and then moved to someone's flat. I no longer go as Steve would create ructions if I did.
I stopped cooking for Steve when we left the boat, he hates my cooking, says it's shite. I did eventually start cooking Sunday lunch as I got fed up with it not being ready until late in the evening and Steve sobbing in the kitchen.
Steve recently came home from the Drs claiming the Dr had said I needed to start cooking proper meals again. I told Steve that the Dr was welcome to come and cook for Steve.
9 comments:
Right answer! Well said. Catriona
The absolute best response! Phillis in Middle Tennessee
Perfect answer !!! Because it is obvious that unless HE is 100% center of attention, with his never ending obsession of his complete control over you, which I believe started after the stroke, you don't give a rat's *** any longer so Steve can just tell the doctor , well she is leaving me so you will have to come cook for me !!! Dawn P. Albany, GA USA
Gosh, this has all gone on far to long. Chip, chip, chipping away and taking your enjoyment of cooking, baking, just being yourself really. Well m'laddo Sue is calling time on your shenanigans. Enough is more than enough. Bravo that lady, we salute you. Sandra x
Don't get rid of your cooking stuff just yet. When you move, you may have the opportunity to cook for pleasure and for others again. Good Luck with your new plans.
Well don't get rid of your baking stuff just yet. You may find a use for it in your new life.
Hope you will have a happier life now
Could Age Concern advise or help in any way if you contacted them? This situation has gone on far too long and you can't be expected to put up with it any longer. He is impossible to live with and you need help in dealing with it. This has to be abuse, the controlling, the lies to his doctor . . . the constant need to be in charge and keep you under his control. Goodness knows what he is saying to your neighbours behind your back.
I agree with all of the above.
Doesn't your doctor understand what's going on!!!! Bring back the days of family doctors who knew all the family members. Stay safe....hugs x
Steve should get himself a cookery book. When he has to decide on a recipe, shopped for the ingredients, cooked the meal and cleared up afterwards perhaps he will be more appreciative of the work that it takes to get food on the table. Just a thought x
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