I think I've spent what I need to now to have a comfortable standard of living, I started with just a bed my son gave me and a few boxes of belongings.
I've purchased 2nd hand furniture and some new bedding and curtains, a fridge freezer, blinds, a whirly washing line and a selection of mops and brushes etc. The bungalow has two built in cupboards in the bedroom but neither of them had hanging rails, fortunately my daughter had a large wardrobe that was no longer needed so she gave it to me. She also gave me a small TV and a mini oven that sits on the work surface. A friend has given me a DVD player.
A friend of Cass's brought round a chest of drawers and my other daughter finally managed to collect the last box of stuff and my standard lamp from Steve, unfortunately it came with six boxes of crap that he insisted were mine. I'm hoping to contact an ex work colleague who does regular boot sales to see if she wants the stuff I don't want.
I'm now hoping to start saving money again, I'm still going to go out to the Autumn group and the pensioners lunch but I'm hoping that if there are no more large items to purchase I should be able to save some money. I want to be prepared as I think there could be problems on the horizon with Steve.
I've managed to stock up my kitchen cupboards and I buy Beano's food online, so I'm now only shopping every two or three weeks, apart from bananas and fortunately the local shop sells them in three's
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So glad to hear you are settled in your new home and have some activities you enjoy. Catriona
I truly hope you don’t have any problems with Steve but sadly I think he is too unstable that one will never know. Maybe one of the neighbors will see for themselves how bad he is now you are gone. Enjoy your peaceful time prepare for the worse and you hope for the absolute best as you deserve it
You sound like you have got yourself sorted very quickly with possessions and have built yourself a real sanctuary.
Going forward, if you are worried about legal stuff with regards to Steve, you could contact the Rights of Women helpline on 020 7251 6577. They offer free legal advice from real solicitors. The helpline is open Tues, Weds and Thurs from 7pm to 9pm and from 12 noon to 2pm on Fridays.
Perhaps check out what is likely to happen with your savings during the divorce. It could be that Steve will be entitled to half.
It sounds like you have done pretty well with gathering in the things that you need. Aren't family and friends wonderful when you need them. Hopefully your savings will now start to grow and you can be prepared for whatever happens with Steve. xx
I'm glad your family and friends are being so helpful.Sounds like you are enjoying life now.
I know you said that you do not want to consult a solicitor! BUT, l am a little alarmed to see that you foresee possible financial damage from Bully Boy, over your new situation.
There are organisations available to give advice on all this.
I'm thinking Age Concern, Woman's Aid, even Social Services to point you to the correct support agency.
You are not alone and together with your family we won't allow you to be a whipping post any longer
We are here for you
Love to Beano
Sandra x
I think you may need some legal advice.
Best wishes.
You will be able to save now I'm sure without someone else's c**p purchases - Sounds to me you will be fine - flis xx
You're practical and resourceful, as well as used to leading a simple frugal life. You should be able to save quite well. I hope the possible problems with/caused by Steve don't happen, but it's as well to be prepared.
Have you filed for a legal separation. Still married but separate lives. Make a Power of Attorney and Health Directive so that he has no say in your future care
I agree with Nelliegrace and Sandra... legal advice is necessary...it will protect you
Not everyone need's to know about having savings you can have savings without it showing up everywhere or anywhere,it is good to be aware you never know he might be at home cooking his dinner seething,he has no shame in telling the neighbours what a victim he is.
Really glad you are getting settled, but I would echo the comments above about legal advice. Use one of the free advice services first to get you set in the right direction, before you get clobbered with unnecessary fees. ❤️ We're here for you
Please get legal advice to protect what you have. Don’t want to scare you but if he runs up debt you may be liable while you’re still married. I only know this as we’re going through a difficult time with our son who’s wife, I expect, has a similar personality disorder to your husband. I’ve never commented before but I am so thrilled you have got out of a terrible situation. You are one strong, loving brave woman. Good luck for a happy blissful future free of hassle. You deserve it.
You have done very well to get yourself sorted so quickly. Help from family has been a blessing. Consult the Citizens Advice Bureau re your financial situation, just to be forearmed. You need to get one step ahead of Steve,ready to protect yourself. Wishing you every good wish.
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