I started waking up in a panic sometimes.
A couple of night's ago I woke up suddenly, I was convinced I'd overs-spent and that I was about to go in the red.
I grabbed my phone and logged in to my online bank, I wasn't overdrawn. But I really must get to the bank soon as I know that Steve can check one of my bank accounts. We used to have a joint account for paying household bills but after a while Steve stopped paying in to that account and started to pay some bills himself.
Last night I woke again, this time I thought I'd missed a Drs appointment, then I realised that the appointment is later in the week.
I wonder what the next panic will be about?
9 comments:
It’s not surprising your sleep is being interrupted after all the stress you were under. You are safe now and hopefully the night wakings will tail away. Catriona
I agree with Catriona. It won’t last. You’re living a good life now. Maybe your brain is trying to find a loophole. As in, maybe you don’t really deserve to be happy? Kick it to the curb! Be strong in your dreams and the angst will fade away.
im like this all the time , i havent had a relaxing nights sleep in years , i figure im just one of lifes unlucky people
I used to do the same,to help stop it I created a new habit, so what I do now last thing at night before bedtime is check my bank account, my diary for appointments or bills that need paid if anything is due to be delivered or collected even the bins! I make sure my dog is ok etc. I write a list down in a little pocket note book that I've checked anything that's woken me in the past stressing out and tick it off as I go with the date at the top of the page . Bank✔ diary ✔ dog ✔shopping✔ deliveries✔ bills due✔ bins✔ etc Anything that wakes you personally. Then in the morning turn the page date it and start again. Keep it beside the bed so you can take a quick look, calm yourself and go back to sleep. It has helped me no end . I hope once you've got your bank sorted so that you're certain Steve can't get into it you'll feel a lot better x
I'm sure it's understandable to experience this - I feel panic when my h is having a strop - I have to go elsewhere - Living with someone who displays unacceptable behaviour can be traumatizing - Eventually now for you time should heal - flis xx
Keep the Joint account but open one of your own as well, something I was advised and it worked out to my advantage, because anything that came with his name, I paid into the joint account then transferred to mine!
I like the suggestions from Anonymous. That's a take charge way of dealing with panic.
That’s very organised!
I keep pen and a notebook next to my bed, so that I can write down everything that I need to remember for the next morning, and can sleep in peace.
I'd move to open a new bank account with just you and a son or daughter as co-beneficiary on the account. Then withdraw all or some of the monies from your co-joined account then tell Steve that you won't be adding more funds to it. If he doesn't object or care, just close the account.
Just a suggestion. Sorry about the panic attack...
hugs
Donna
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