I get fed up with reading and being told that it is impossible for young people to get on the housing ladder these days and that they are still living with parents when they are in their 30's.
What a lot of these young people mean is that they cannot have their existing social life, a nice flat with a magazine style interior, filled with all the latest gadgets, in a nice area, so they stay home.
Well all 4 of my kids bought their first property when they were in their 20's.
The properties were small, needed lots of work and were maybe not in the best part of town, but they were a start.
And yes, hubby (who is their stepdad) and I helped.
He helped by offering expert advice and occasionally wielding a paintbrush.
I helped by offering the use of our bathroom when they had no hot water and a hot meal when they had no cooking facilities.
They had no financial help from us, we can't afford it and none from my ex, who is too tight.
I realise that if you live in an area of low employment then it will be harder.
Here in the Thames Valley there are plenty of jobs, this also means house prices are high.
Also, when my kids bought their first property they didn't have particularly well paid jobs, between them they worked as a mechanic, nanny, in a call center, in catering, on a service desk etc.
I had an animated discussion with a colleague who's son, GF and toddler are in a small one bed rented property.
The property is becoming too small as the child grows, they cannot find anyone who will rent them a larger property in a 'nice' area as they are DSS tenants.
She was bewailing how hard life was as they have no prospect of ever buying the sort of 3/4 bed property they really should be entitled too.
Her son works part time his GF not at all, the GF finds it tiring with the baby for a whole day on her own, hence part time for the son.
They have a huge flat screen TV, all the latest gadgets and run a large and expensive car.
When my colleague said they didn't know where to turn to improve their lot, I made a few suggestions.
Such as, her son could get a full time job, the GF could get a job and apply for free child care, or they could do the same as my DD and her husband, work at different times and share the child care, or the GF could get a Saturday job.
Or they could do what hubby and I did when we first got together, take on any extra work/overtime/temp job available.
Of course none of my suggestions were considered viable as anything they do will affect their benefit claims.
I'm afraid I was quite brutal and told her that they would never be able to own the house of their dreams unless they got off their lazy arses and worked for it!