Saturday, 27 September 2025

Moving on.

I have reached the end of my tether and have decided to move out. Being married to a control freak is soul destroying and damned hard work.

Steve is obviously not happy with my decision but as he's always refused to accept that some of his behaviour is unacceptable, that's hardly surprising.

I've told my children and I'm currently looking for somewhere to live, I have various options  which I'm not sharing with Steve. I'm concerned that he would arrive in my doorstep pleading poverty and homelessness.

I sympathise with him to a certain extent but I need a life of my own. One where I can come and go as I please and where I'm not answerable to someone else.

14 comments:

Sooze said...

You have my wholehearted support and admiration. I hope you find a suitable place soon xx

Anonymous said...

I know you didn’t want it to come to this so I am sorry. However, I do think you deserve a good life and you haven’t got that at the moment so Good for You and I wish you all the luck and happiness because you deserve it. Sending you hugs over the internet. Helenx

Carol Caldwell said...

I haven't commented for a while because because things seemed so dire and bleak that I didn't know what to say. I am so glad for you that you are moving because I feel sure where ever you go has got to be better for you than living with Steve.

Anonymous said...

You've tolerated awlful living conditions with no support for way too long. I wish you the best of everything for the future and I am so happy you have been able to decide to do this, you deserve and need to for yourself. Hugs

Damselfly said...

Wishing you and Beano the very, very best!

Anonymous said...

Good for you, sounds to me like you've made the right decision.I hope you find somewhere suitable for you and Beano and soon.

Catriona said...

You have my full support and many kind thoughts as you move forward with your life. Best wishes to you in your new way of living- I honestly don’t know how you have survived this long.❤️

Alcea Rosea 31 said...

You have gone above and beyond, for your health you need to put you first. Take care, Josie x

Ana Dunk said...

My fear for you has always been that Steve would continue to get worse with his treatment of you and that sooner or later you would come to considerable physical harm. Mental harm has already happened as you have been driven deeper into despair over how you have been treated and am thinking it would only be a matter of time. Of course, he will lay all the blame on you, but I am sure those who know you both and who have witnessed his actions will know the truth. I wish you well.

Sylvia said...

Sue, I’m so pleased you have plucked up courage and for once do something for yourself. It was not an easy road you were journaling. Hope you get something to suit you soon and have a nice life xx

LouC said...

It takes a lot of resolve, commitment and effort but self preservation has to be your goal right now. You are smart and good hearted so you can make it. My prayers and support go with you. I admire how hard you’ve worked to make your situation tolerable but it is time to focus on you (and Beano, of course).

MELODY JACOB said...

Oh, I'm so incredibly sorry you've been going through such a soul-destroying time, but it takes immense courage to reach this decision and plan your exit. Moving out from under a control freak's thumb is the first step toward reclaiming your peace and your life.

I truly hope you find the perfect new place soon where you can finally come and go as you please. You absolutely deserve that freedom and quiet independence.

www.melodyjacob.com

Nelliegrace said...

Very best of luck.

Anonymous said...

I've never commented on your blog before but have reading it for a few years. I think you are right to take this step. I admire your resilience and wish you all the very best. Christine

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