Scrimping and saving, ranting and raving. Past retirement age.
The weather here is improving slightly, today is been sunny and mild.
My cataract, in my left eye is getting thicker and my vision is cloudy.
Surgery is not an option, it has been tried and failed.
My right eye is clearer but my vision is distorted.
Ah well, I shall keep buggering on for now.
A couple of days ago I met the couple who have purchased one of the flats here.
The flat is over two floors, has two bedrooms, two bathrooms and is in the listed part of the complex so has large, single glazed windows. The flat is also in need of a complete makeover as the previous resident was 102 and housebound, she moved in to an old people's home a few months ago.
Steve has said a few times that we should have purchased that flat instead of the one we did buy. It wasn't for sale when we were looking and anyway I didn't want anywhere with stairs as I find them difficult. Steve feels our flat isn't impressive enough though I've no idea who he wants to impress!
The new couple are both tall, slim and from South Africa, they have a small friendly Shih Tzu. They were in the car park as I returned from walking Beano and he was very keen to say hello.
I mentioned them to Steve when I got home and he was very pleased, he explained that I needed to make friends with the wife and stop going out with Betty.
He's set me a list of tasks to ensure they like me, including asking if they'd like to come on a dog walk with me. I really wonder what planet he's on sometimes.
I'll admit I'm not good at making friends, mainly because of my deafness. Fortunately it will be 4 or 5 months before the new people move in.
Our mad cat lady is up in arms at the thought of another dog moving in, she claims her cat is already being terrorised by Beano and she's not sure the cat will cope with another dog in the building!
We have a wardrobe in the bedroom that was left by the previous resident. It is perfectly sound but it smells of stinky feet.
I've tried every remedy I can think of and some I've googled but still it stinks.
The knock-on effect is that my clothes also smell of stinky feet!
I told Steve I was going to save for a new wardrobe over the next few months. I'd be happy with second hand.
To start with Steve suggested that is was my clothes that were making the wardrobe smell, I explained that it isn't but he's not convinced.
We've been in the flat over a year now so I feel I've been patient long enough.
I'd be happy with a second-hand wardrobe from a charity shop but I know Steve wouldn't like that and I don't care enough to argue.
Steve then announced he'd transfer the money from the savings to pay for a new wardrobe.
All was going swimmingly until Steve decided he didn't like the way I was repeatedly saying "er er er".
As I wasn't saying anything, I suggested he put his hearing aids in!
A few moments later my phone pinged, it was a text message, my bank account was nearly in the red.
Cue much shouting from Steve, I asked if he'd ordered a wardrobe and yes he had. From Amazon which is paid from my account. Had he done the transfer? No!
Steve was adamant that the money couldn't have been taken from my account already.
I left the flat with Beano and went for a walk.I
My new wardrobe will be here on 4th April.
We have two cockerpoos and a maltipoo living near us, both the cockerpoo are male, black and mad, the maltipoo is female, beige and slightly calmer.
Beano likes them all and long as they accept that he doesn't want to play he is fine. One of the cockerpoos still acts like a puppy and bounces around Beano, trying to get a reaction.
Beano grumbles and complains but eventually today he did play with Denzil. They ran around the field, chasing each other until Beano was tired. When we got home Beano slept for a couple of hours, worn out by his exertions.
Beano woke me up three times last night and I couldn't work out why.
Until that is, at 6:30 I went into the kitchen to put the kettle on and realised Steve had left two slices of roast beef on a plate on the work surface!
Once this was in the fridge Beano settled down and went to sleep.
I, on the other hand was wide awake and pottered around until Betty messaged me to see if I'd go with her to take Harry to the hospital for a scan. I agreed and off we went, Betty and I had lunch in the Costa while we waited for Harry, we get to do it all again on Wednesday. Harry has waited six to eight months for these appointments.
Margie we have more chance of winning the lottery ticket than getting any sort of medical appointment.
Kate, we are both in the same boat aren't we, as you say there is bugger all help available.
To the unknown who suggested I go bowling, you must have missed the posts about me going blind!
RunNRose, I will stop posting when I can no longer see well enough, until then, this is my outlet.
Keep calm and carry on.
I know everyone has their own opinion on what I should do but I write this blog to get stuff off my chest.
The longer this situation continues the worse Steve gets, he is becoming more and more confused and when confused he gets irritable. If I threw him out he couldn't cope, I'd be very happy if he left of his own accord but he is unlikely to do that. He has little understanding of how his behaviour affects me or other people.
Y'day our Tesco shopping was delivered, I try to walk Beano at this time but the shopping arrived early. Steve was already pacing between the flat and the car park, getting stressed. When the van arrived Steve hurried back to the flat. I never know what I'm to do if I'm still home when the shopping arrives, sometimes I'm expected to help and Steve shouts of I don't help. Sometimes I'm expected to sit on the sofa out of the way, either way I can expect a bollocking!
On Wednesday I went to Lidl to buy some bread rolls, Steve wasn't well so he didn't feel well enough to go himself. That said he did give me detailed instructions on how to get to Lidl.
I did explain that I knew where Lidl's was but it seems I was wrong. Steve insisted that Lidl's had moved.
It hasn't, I'm not sure what causes his confusion but I just nod and agree with him, there is no point in arguing.
An ex work colleague of Steve's is in hospital in Devon. Steve is thinking of visiting him, I hope he doesn't, he's dreadful in hospitals. I think his ex colleague is unlikely to survive from what we've been told but Steve hasn't grasped this yet.
I'm out with Betty today, I don't know where we are going and I don't much care, it's just so nice to go out.I
in four weeks time, Betty's bowls season starts and then I don't expect to go out with her very often but for now I will enjoy every moment.
Steve isn't happy here, he makes no secret of it. I've suggested various solutions but he's rather stay here and complain than move.
He has now exhausted the sympathy of most of the other residents and is finding it difficult to find someone to sympathise with him.
He has now reached out to some boater friends telling them how unhappy he is and how unkind I am.
The lady has emailed me remonstrating with me for my unkindness towards Steve! Her email explains that she whilst she is glad I have made friends and understands my need to go out. To go out every day, leaving Steve in the flat to look after Beano is unfair. She also feels I need to share the visits to coffee meetings in the summer house rather than attending alone and again leaving Steve in the flat with Beano!
I have not yet replied.
I may never reply!
