Steve feels the need to be in control of everything at all times.
This is why he decided I wasn't shopping correctly, he could do it better and more cheaply. He is currently struggling to get our food bill below £250 a week.
He feels that doing the washing once a month should be sufficient, I wash once or twice a week, sometimes more.
He would also like to control how often I leave site and who with!
Although he claims he is worried about me, he never worries about me walking Beano even after dark and he refuses to see me across the road if the sun is low and it's difficult for me to see.
Steve's latest decision is about my choice of refreshment. I drink tea and coffee in the morning but then swap to tap water, but when I go to the summer house in the afternoon, I like to take a mug of herbal tea. Steve has decided this isn't safe and I'm to go over with an empty mug and a tea bag and get someone to boil the kettle and pour got water in my mug. I make tea and coffee in the flat so why I'm not trusted to carry a mug of herbal tea to the summer house in not sure.
I don't follow his rules but he does get quite upset as he feels he's spent a lot of time deciding the best way for me to do things only for me to ignore his advice.
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Sorry - I just had to laugh - its his way of coping I know (post stroke) but really.... Dawn P. Albany, GA USA
Do you have a travel mug with a lid you could use?
I’m so sorry you have to put up with this.
Sounds similar to someone here - He is worse when he is bored - So I try to find something to interest him - I can then get a bit of peace for a while - preferably an outside job x
I'm sorry that you're going through this - it's probably a way of coping for him, but it would drive me to murder.
And I'm somewhat impressed by the £250 bill that's high even for my shoddy shopping habits. Fingers crossed he gets bored with shopping and fixes on something that's easier for you.
I would be going through the shopping receipt to see exactly where the money is being spent. (Does his alcohol take up a big percentage, I wonder?) I realise that it's difficult to engage him in a sensible conversation - I'd feel like tying him down and emphasising just how much money is being wasted. Does he take your choices of food into consideration or concentrate on his fried rubbish?
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