Wednesday 7 February 2024

Housework today

Well most days I do some housework but not on Tuesday when I cook for lunch group and not on whatever day I go out with Betty. It doesn't take long to tidy the flat, I make the bed when Steve eventually gets up. Then I vacuum through.

A quick wipe over the kitchen work surface, there is only one surface and most of it is covered by the microwave, air fryer, kettle and toaster.

Next is the bathroom, again very compact, I have a sponge/scrubbie on a long handle that I use to clean the shower after I've showered.

I dust the mirrors, sometimes I wipe the paintwork, there are only a few bits of skirting boards showing. It's a very small flat but I like it.

Steve hates it, I've suggested buying him out but he'd rather stay here and moan. I refuse to engage, every time he complains I offer to buy him out and then ignore him.

I spend a  lot of time ignoring him, mainly because he refuses to wear his hearing aids indoors. He claims I have nothing interesting to say so there is no point in him wearing his aids.

I'm trying to decide whether it would be cheaper to divorce him or hire a hit man!

That is a joke before anyone thinks they need to call the police.


Sue said...

My son has spent years reading crime novels and true crime papers and has a degree in Forensic Science ... if you need any advice on disposing of a body get in touch. ;-)

Hard up Hester said...

Sounds like a plan, Sue.

Sooze said...

Housework is an evil necessity - I do what's necessary to maintain cleanliness and order, but husband soon makes the place untidy again. Husbands are a pain in the bum!

Ellen D. said...

I'm glad you are finding your own way of keeping busy and socializing.

flis said...

Whilst you can manage the situation and not be overwhelmed by it there may be no rush to do anything hasty - but good idea about giving him a choice -I ask mine if he'd be happier single at times- miserable s*d x

Bettina Groh said...

I'd be inclined to follow Sue's suggestion!! Enjoy you time socializing and freedom!

Jessica Hollinghurst said...

Our librarian said to my husband "I'd be worried if I were you all she takes out of here are murder mysteries and cook books".

lindsey said...

Sue, I have now been married for over 50 years. I wonder how that happened and have come to the decision that miracles do happen! 🤣. It is so good to read that you are making a life for yourself and are certainly making a great addition to your neighbours’ get togethers etc. I assume that life is more interesting for you than when you were on the boat. Good luck with your ‘new’ life. Best wishes from Northern Ireland xx

PatsyAnne said...

LOL - I would have hired the hit man way long ago. You have more patience than I could EVER have with the way he treats you, his constantly putting you down and yelling at you. I'd say, if you can afford it, buy him out - let him get his own little apartment and pack up his air fryer and frozen fast foods and move out. I realize its all down to his stroke but with all his yelling, his fatty foods and stress he may just have another one, doesn't he realize that?

I love reading your blog, your own little life is so interesting, and how you manage to make friends and enjoy your life is amazing to me. I was so happy when you moved off the boat, I was so worried about the two of you living on that crowded boat with no way to settle down, its exciting but doing it with a person like Steve would have driven me to toss him overboard without a life ring. LOL Hugs from a tiny apartment up on the Hudson River in NY. Just me and my books, computer and music. No air fryer, a teeny tiny microwave to bake potatoes and no tv (everything I want to watch I can watch on my computer.

Karla said...

My heart aches for you. It aches for all women who are saddled with petulant toddlers in men's bodies. Seems that women get the shit end of the deal, especially later in life. "Until death do us part, sickness and health" that BS has to be rethought. Maybe have a visit with a lawyer, and see what you can do on your own to free yourself from this hell. You deserve to enjoy your life, rather than suffer through it with him.

Anonymous said...

Buy him out . Who would walk Beano when you are in jail?

Anonymous said...

I'm glad you're standing up to him more, please continue to hold your ground on every issue as long as you feel safe to do so, and instead of offering to buy him out, try telling him to be a kinder better husband to you or you positively WILL buy him out, without question. It might just get through to him.Really though if he doesn't want to hear your words or enjoy sharing any part of his life with you, what point is there staying together when you both seem so unhappy.

Anonymous said...

I agree with the previous comment.
He doesn't want to talk to you.
He doesn't care what you feel or think.
What are you to him?
Someone to wash his clothes, clean up the messes he makes.
You deserve better.
Keep doing the things that make you happy.
I'm proud of you.

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