Saturday 20 July 2019

Quiet day today

We had a quiet day today as yesterday was busy and stressful. All we did was stripped the bed and walked Beano a couple of times.

Steve had a meeting at work on Friday, he is beginning to realise that he is unlikely to ever return to work. It's hit him hard, like a lot of men he felt defined by his job.

In the evening we went to a colleague's leaving do, we stayed about an hour, Steve was unable to cope any longer. He was struggling to recognise people and got very confused.

Fortunately DD2 had offered to be our taxi for the evening, so we didn't have to struggle with public transport.

It's heartbreaking to see, Steve used to love socialising but now he can only cope with one or two people at a time and then not for very long.

8 comments:

R's Rue said...

Praying.

Living Alone in Your 60's said...

My heart goes out to you both. Life is so ruddy cruel at times. X

kate steeper said...

Mr BH yearns to be useful , to a bloke whos been physically useful all their life its a hard time

Hard up Hester said...

Thank you Rue.

It truly is Going It.

Kate, it's so hard to watch them isn't it

sweet blondie blue eyes said...

We am so sorry to hear that all hopes of Steve returning to work have been dashed. I had thought this might happen in view of the after effects of his stroke. Working is a big part of a mans life and its shattering when its taken away from them so suddenly. Very difficult to come to terms with for both of you.

We were only talking about you a couple of days ago, it seems only a few weeks ago we came to see you on your first boat before you took your epic voyage down to Reading. It was a shock to find out it was 3 years ago!!

Take care and enjoy your boat. Love A & E.








Pat said...

It's hard isn't it. We're going through a "I could still drive" phase just now. Despite the consultant informing the DVLA of husbands dementia (as they're legally required to do, although we'd surrendered his license previous to that) husband still thinks he could drive. This is someone who has to be told "get in the car" when we go out onto the drive, has to be helped with his seatbelt, hasn't a clue which direction to go in to go anywhere, even the local shop, and doesn't recognise having been anywhere before, local shop or elsewhere. It's "I could be driving" repeatedly when I'm driving.
Watching a loved one go through these traumas is harrowing.

This 24 hours a day unpaid job that I didn't apply for and am not trained to do is rubbish too.
Big hugs to you.

Susan Zarzycki said...

My first husband had brain cancer so I can relate to your hubby having confusion and frustration when leaving his comfort zone. I know it's hard going for you both. Trying to find a bit of humor everyday is a good coping medicine. I wish you both good days ahead!

Hard up Hester said...

Sweet Blondie, doesn't time fly, it doesn't seem that long but it is almost three years.

Pat, yep it's bloody hard, still I'm glad I still have him around, mostly.


Susan that must have been awful, thank you.

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