This has been confirmed as being a thing, by a commenter on the previous poster.
I'm afraid I don't like phrases such as passed on etcetera, I don't like lost either as in I'm sorry you lost your mum, like a piece of lost luggage.
Anyway I digress.
I remember when my ex's father died, his sons rushed over to remove his collection of pornography before their mum found it. This is a similar idea. Neither Steve or I have anything embarrassing for anyone to find when we die. My days of wearing leather and wielding a bull whip are long gone. And I know where Steve's embarrassing stuff is. The job would fall to my daughters both of whole are pretty unshockable, probably due to having me as a mother.
What I'm doing now is going through stuff that I haven't used for ages or can no longer see well enough to use.
I know someone who's daughter is taking up dress making, so I'm gifting her a book of patterns. Other books and all bar two dvds are going on the shelf in the shower block for other people can help them selves.
I shall rootle through the draws under the bed to see what else can go.